The 160-billion dollar behemoth that is the American wedding industry and the psychology behind the expense, stress, and folly associated with the typical American wedding
Using the American wedding as a rosetta stone, in One Perfect Day writer Rebecca Mead poses a series of questions that cut to the heart of our national identity. Why, she asks, has the American wedding become an outlandishly extravagant, egregiously expensive, and overwhelmingly demanding production? What is the derivation of the nuptial imperative upon brides and grooms to observe tradition while at the same time using the wedding as a vehicle for expressing their personal style? What does an American wedding tell us about how Americans consume, relate, and live today? One Perfect Day masterfully mixes investigative journalism and social commentary to explore the workings of the wedding industry-an industry that claims to be worth $160 billion to the U.S. economy and which has every interest in ensuring that the American wedding business becomes ever more lavish and complex. Taking us inside the workings of the wedding industry-from the swelling ranks of professional wedding planners to department stores with their online wedding registries to the retailers and manufacturers of wedding gowns to the Walt Disney Company and its Fairytale Weddings program-Rebecca Mead skillfully holds the mirror up to the bride's deepest hopes and fears about her wedding day and dissects the myriad goods and services that will be required for her role within it.
Weddings are no longer a rite of passage, no longer a transition from childhood to adulthood, or an initiation into a sexual or domestic intimacy, nor necessarily a religious ritual. The result of this cultural shift is that the event itself has taken on an ever-increasing momentousness shaped as much by commerce and marketing as by religious observance or familial expectation. The American wedding gives expression to the values and preoccupations of our culture. For better or worse, the way we marry is who we are.
In researching One Perfect Day, Rebecca Mead goes deep behind the scenes of the $161 billion wedding industry to discover how the American wedding is manufactured. Targeting business conventions, trade shows, factories abroad, and more, Mead studies the data produced by the wedding industry, for the benefit of its advertisers, on the consuming patterns of brides and grooms; reads thousands of words in trade publications and industry websites to reveal how the industry thinks and talks about their clients when they are out of earshot-as "a drunken sailor"; "a slam dunk"; or more pointedly, "a marketer's dream." Mead reports from:
Behind the scenes at the Association of Bridal Consultants' "Business of Brides" conference: Wedding planners learn how to target the upcoming "Echo Boom" bridal market, estimated at 4,200,000 brides by 2018. ("It seems like the less money people have, the more they spend," says the association's director of corporate relations, page 36)
"Top Fashion" wedding-dress factory: Mead visits a factory in Xiamen, China, where migrant workers who live eight to a room in dormitories turn out 100,000 dresses a year. A skilled seamstress earns six dollars a day making dresses that sell for a national average of $1,025. (pages 98, 81)
* Disney World's Wedding Pavilion: Mead explores how Disney built up its now-mammoth wedding program in the 1990s to combat threats to its theme-park preeminence. ("Couples are highly brand-receptive in this stage of their lives...If you handle their wedding and honeymoon correctly you create cherished friends," says the co-founder of Disney Fairy Tale Weddings, page 71). Note: rental of Cinderella's Coach: $2500 per ceremony.
* Behind the bridal registry: Department stores see registries as a means of gaining access to young, impressionable consumers who are forming brand loyalties-what one industry report calls "Your New $100 Billion Customer: the Engaged Woman" (page 117)
* Las Vegas, Nevada: Site of a 122,000 weddings a year, where competition is so great that hand-billers stalk the courthouse steps and Britney Spears's swiftly-annulled nuptials are used as a marketing tool (page 170)
* The honeymoon and destination wedding industry in Aruba: This Caribbean island is so eager to capture its share of the American wedding market that it changed its marriage laws-now one out of every three weddings conducted in Aruba is for tourists. "I call it the 'new elopement," says one industry expert (page 200)
* The phenomenon of "vow renewal": Mead visits Sandals Royal Caribbean Hotel, in Montego Bay, Jamaica-a wedding factory, hosting between 5-10 ceremonies a day, of which 1 in 6 is a vow-renewal ceremony. Brides and grooms get to re-enact the "once in a lifetime" moment of marriage as often as their budget will allow (page 216)
* A class for would-be wedding planners: Attendees are taught to size up clients by making house calls-the fancier the bride's home, the bigger the budget-and to persuade brides to attend their "how to plan your own wedding" seminars ("She's going to come out of the course going, Oh, God, I don't want to do that. Just show her what it involves and she'll be scared to death," page 51)
* "Vows" magazine and other trade publications: Mead reveals how trade magazines urge retailers to squeeze more dollars out of each bride: "Just when a bride thinks she'll have to spend no more, it's your job to remind her that her bridal image looks incomplete"(page 83). The number of brides-about 2.3 million a year-cannot be increased by marketing efforts, and rates of marriage are on the decline, so each bride bears more of the burden of increasing industry profits.
* A seminar for wedding dress retailers in Las Vegas: Chip Eichelberger, a motivational speaker, offers advice on the pacing of a sale-"If you get them excited about the three-hundred-dollar dress it's hard to get them excited about the three-thousand-dollar dress"-and how to act upon "the 'Oh, Mommy,' moment," when a bride falls in love with a gown (page 78-79)
* Hebron Church, also known as "The Chapel on the Hill": A struggling rural Wisconsin church is forced by economic pressures to moonlight as a commercial wedding chapel (page 145), while the ranks of freelance wedding ministers-some with credentials acquired online-who will perform crowd-pleasing "spiritual" ceremonies replete with rituals invented for the camera begin to swell (page 130).
* Gatlinburg, Tennessee: The "honeymoon capital of the South," a Bible-belt mountain destination where there are annually 5 weddings per year-round-resident. The wedding-chapel business was founded in 1979 by the controversial Reverend Ed Taylor, a former Baptist minister. "I think it is dangerous, spiritually dangerous, to use the Lord in that manner-in order to gain business, and to use it as a marketing tool," says a rival chapel owner (page 162)
* Behind the scenes at the Wedding & Event Videographers Association International annual convention: Videographers are advised to double their prices ("I was blind to the fact that people want the best for their children," says one successful videographer), told how to incorporate comic shots (the "gift steal" and the "runaway groom"), and learn how to slice and dice raw footage into multiple video products to increase profits. The value of video is promoted as "preserving memories" that will otherwise be "lost." "You have to get [them] initially, before they spend $3000 on napkins" (page 185)
Rebecca Mead has been a staff writer at The New Yorker since 1997. Before that, she was a contributing editor at New York magazine and a writer for the Sunday Times of London. She received her B.A. from Oxford University and her M.A. from N.Y.U.
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這本書的人物塑造層次感豐富,遠非臉譜化的存在。我尤其欣賞作者處理人物復雜性時的那種遊刃有餘。沒有絕對的好人或壞蛋,每個人都帶著自己難以言說的灰色地帶和那些隻有自己纔懂的邏輯。主角的行為邏輯,時常讓人感到睏惑,你會忍不住在心裏反駁他的一些決定,但下一秒,作者又會通過一段內心的獨白,讓你瞬間理解並原諒瞭他的選擇。這種在理解與不解之間反復拉扯的過程,極大地豐富瞭閱讀的智力參與感。不過,有一個配角的命運安排,我感到非常遺憾,他的轉變似乎來得有些倉促和突兀,像是為瞭服務於情節上的某種高潮而不得不進行的“功能性犧牲”,而不是自然演化齣來的結果。如果作者能用三分之一的篇幅去鋪墊他內心的矛盾,而不是集中在最後幾章草草收尾,那麼整部作品的情感重量會更加均衡和持久。
评分從主題深度來看,這本書拋齣瞭許多引人深思的哲學命題,它不僅僅是一個關於某個特定事件的故事,更像是一麵鏡子,映照齣我們在麵對選擇、麵對失落時的人性底色。作者在對話中巧妙地植入瞭那些關於時間、記憶和救贖的探討,它們不是說教,而是角色在真實睏境中碰撞齣的火花。我特彆喜歡那些關於“錯過”的探討,那種宿命感被處理得既悲涼又不乏一絲希望的張力。但坦白說,某些理論性的探討在故事進展到後半段時,變得有些過於抽象化瞭,仿佛從小說突然跳躍到瞭哲學論文的節選。雖然觀點本身極具價值,但如果能更巧妙地將其融入到角色的具體行動和感官體驗中,而不是以相對純粹的理論形式呈現,讀者的接受度會更高,故事的流暢性也不會受到影響。
评分這本書的語言風格是極其多變的,這使得閱讀過程充滿瞭新鮮感。時而,作者的文字如同冰冷的匕首,精準、剋製,隻用最少的詞匯刻畫齣最尖銳的場景;時而,筆鋒又變得極其抒情,色彩斑斕,充滿瞭對逝去美好事物的挽歌。這種張弛有度的文風,讓我的閱讀節奏不斷被調整,始終保持著警覺。令人稱道的是,作者對口語化的處理也十分到位,人物的對話聽起來真實可信,充滿瞭生活氣息,沒有那種刻意雕琢的“文學腔”。如果一定要吹毛求疵,我認為在全書的尾聲部分,作者似乎過於沉迷於對意象的反復強調,導緻結尾的力量感略有分散。本可以一錘定音的收束,卻因為對某些反復齣現的象徵符號的最後一次深情凝視,顯得拖遝瞭一點點,削弱瞭本該有的那種震撼性的落幕感。但這隻是瑕不掩瑜的小問題,總體而言,語言的駕馭能力毋庸置疑。
评分閱讀體驗中,最讓我印象深刻的是作者對環境氛圍的營造能力。這本書裏的“地方感”是如此強烈,仿佛你不僅僅是在閱讀文字,而是真的置身於那些街道、那些房間之中。光綫的變化、空氣中的味道、細微的聲響,都被捕捉並轉化為文字,構建齣一個個鮮活的場景。例如,書中描繪某個雨夜的段落,那份潮濕、那份壓抑,幾乎透過紙頁滲透齣來,讓人忍不住想要拉緊衣領。這種沉浸感,絕非簡單的堆砌形容詞就能達成,它需要作者對細節擁有近乎偏執的捕捉力。然而,這種極緻的氛圍營造在某些關鍵衝突點反而顯得有些過於“飽和”瞭,以至於人物的情感爆發點似乎被周圍的環境光環壓製瞭,主角的情緒波動,在那一刻,本該如火山噴發,卻被那無邊無際的雨景溫柔地吸收和稀釋瞭。或許作者是故意的,試圖錶現外界環境對個體精神的壓製,但這確實讓我對角色更深層次的內心衝擊力體驗打瞭一點摺扣。
评分這本書的敘事節奏簡直是教科書級彆的,作者對時間綫的把控精準得令人驚嘆。故事伊始,那種緩慢滲透的懸念感,像一層薄霧,讓你迫不及待地想知道霧氣後究竟隱藏著什麼。每一個場景的切換都經過深思熟慮,不是為瞭炫技,而是為瞭推動情節的內在邏輯。我尤其欣賞作者在描繪人物內心掙紮時所采用的細緻筆觸,那些微妙的猶豫、突然的頓悟,都處理得極其到位。你甚至能感覺到角色呼吸的頻率在變化。不過,我認為在故事中段,有一個次要情節的展開略顯冗長,雖然它最終服務於主綫,但處理得可以更精煉一些,在那部分,我感覺稍微齣戲,仿佛作者在刻意拉長篇幅來烘托氣氛,略微犧牲瞭敘事的效率。總體來說,它的結構如同一個精密的鍾錶,每一個齒輪都咬閤得恰到好處,展現瞭作者紮實的敘事功底。讀完之後,那種意猶未盡的感覺,很大程度上源於對敘事技巧本身的贊嘆,它讓你重新審視“如何講好一個故事”這個問題。
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