Praise for "The Secrets of Happily Married Men" "Manly men rest assured: You can hope to become a better husband without having to get in touch with your feminine side. . . . Lively and entertaining, this broad guidebook provides Haltzman's insights illuminated by anecdotes from his online discussion forum for married men." --"Psychology Today" "Haltzman . . . launches his eight strategies with remarkable vigor. More important, they are extraordinarily well fleshed out and convincingly supported with useful 'to do' lists and a multitude of examples. They will no doubt prove helpful to many men struggling to build a happy marriage." --"Publisher's Weekly" "Scott Haltzman, a psychiatrist and Brown University professor, has been studying marriages good and bad for a long time. . . . View marriage as your most important task, Haltzman urges men, and pursue success as you would anything else that matters." --"Washington Post" "Men are good at fixing problems, not talking about them, so Haltzman advises playing to your strength. The genius of this book is that it . . . asks politically incorrect questions about men and women at home--the neglected front in the gender wars." --"New York Times" "The insights in this book reveal a new and effective way for men and women to understand and appreciate each other. It shows what it really takes to create a loving and lasting relationship." --John Gray, author, "Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus" Marriage and relationships are in crisis. The breakup and divorce rate remain incredibly high, despite all the couples therapy, afternoon talk shows, and other books in the marketplace, many of which describe men as abusive commitment phobic creeps who'd better change fast or else. But this new book is totally different, a whole different way of looking at how to build a successful long-lasting relationship from a man's point of view, men who are happy in their partnerships, who have figured out what works for them in accomplishing the goal of a loving, intimate, lifetime commitment. Dr. Scott Haltzman, Clinical Assistant Professor of Psychiatry and Human Behavior at Brown University, and founder of "www.secretsofmarriedmen.com," has devised a proven method for improving relationships, based on a man's special and unique skills, strengths, powers--as a responsible and motivated worker, manager, leader, problem-solver, partner, husband, and father. Men are different, Dr. Haltzman says. They don't approach relationships with the same skills and techniques that women do--and "viva la difference." Dr.Haltzman therefore lays out eight ways, tasks, proven techniques which men have revealed in confidential correspondence to his highly successful website, including The First Way: Make Your Marriage Your Job, The Second Way: Know Your Wife, The Third Way: Be Home Now, The Fourth Way: Expect Conflict and Deal With It, The Fifth Way: Learn to Listen, The Sixth Way: Aim to Please, The Seventh Way: Understand the Truth About Sex, The Eighth Way: Introduce Yourself, and finally, Celebrate Your Love. Within each of these steps, he provides both specific analysis, guidelines and techniques based on male biology, neuro-science, brain differences, unique developmental stages from youth to seniority. To illustrate these ideas in action, he's included wonderful true stories, anecdotes, and confessions from the website. The result is a practical, very entertaining, totally original way to build successful relationships for men and their partners, girlfriends, and wives. For a lasting commitment, a continuing guide to solving inevitable problems and bumps in the road, for more fun, better sex, genuine intimacy, and a life-long partnership--this dynamic new author shows the way in a manner that finally includes an authentic male perspective.
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从排版和印刷质量来看,这本书绝对是出版界的精品,这一点我必须承认。纸张的触感很舒服,字体大小也适中,长时间阅读下来眼睛不容易疲劳。但内容上的体验,却完全是另一番景象。这本书给我最大的印象就是“用力过猛”。它试图涵盖的领域太广了,从个人时间管理,到全球经济趋势,再到心理学流派演变,简直是“包罗万象”,但结果却是“一事无成”。每一个主题都只是浅尝辄止,像个蜻蜓点水的高手,刚让你觉得有点意思,它就迅速飞走了,转向下一个看似更宏大的议题。我尤其无法忍受其中那种居高临下的说教口吻。作者似乎总是在用一种“我比你早醒悟了几十年”的姿态进行阐述,每当他抛出一个“真理”时,总会伴随着一种对那些“尚未开化者”的轻微嘲讽。这种态度,使得阅读过程中的体验从学习变成了被审视,让人很难真正敞开心扉去接纳书中的任何建议,即使其中可能有那么一两句是相对中肯的。最终,我合上书本时,更多的是一种对浪费了如此精美印刷材料的遗憾,而不是获得知识后的满足感。
评分我不得不说,这本书的装帧设计非常具有欺骗性。那个烫金的书名和那深沉的墨绿色封面,散发着一种成功学圣经般的庄重感,让人一拿到手里就觉得“哇,这肯定是个干货满满的宝藏”。然而,实际内容却像是一杯加了太多冰块的白开水——份量十足,但味道寡淡到几乎可以忽略不计。书中反复强调的“核心价值观”和“人生准则”,听起来像是上世纪八十年代的励志演讲稿被重新包装了一下。我特别关注了其中关于“压力管理”的部分,因为最近工作上的确焦头烂额。我期待看到一些具体的、可以立即执行的“五分钟减压法”或者“办公室冥想技巧”。结果呢?作者花了大量的篇幅探讨“压力”在人类进化史中的作用,以及如何从宏观角度理解“焦虑的本质”。这种将简单问题复杂化的写法,让我感觉自己像是在听一个资深教授在对一群幼儿园小朋友讲解量子物理学——信息量巨大,但接收效率极低。读完之后,我并没有感到压力减轻,反而因为没能完全理解作者的“高深见解”而产生了一种莫名的挫败感。说实话,我更倾向于那些直截了当、图文并茂的“速成手册”,而不是这种需要研究生级别的理解力才能勉强消化的理论著作。
评分这本书简直是本“时间杀手”!我本来是冲着封面那个“成功人士”的剪影去的,想着里面肯定藏着什么独家秘笈,能让我的人生瞬间开挂。结果呢?读完后,我感觉自己像是刚跑完一场马拉松,精疲力尽,脑子里还是一团浆糊。作者似乎特别热衷于引用一些听起来很“高大上”的哲学观点,但解释得极其晦涩难懂,我得来回读好几遍,才能勉强咂摸出那么一丝丝味道。更别提那些冗长无比的案例分析了,每一个故事都恨不得把人物的祖宗十八代都扒拉出来,细腻到我开始怀疑作者是不是在写小说而不是一本指南。比如,书中有一章专门讲“高效沟通的艺术”,洋洋洒洒写了上万字,我只想知道怎么能让老婆听我把话说完,结果他给我分析了亚里士多德的修辞学。我承认,也许对于那些有志于成为专业学者的人来说,这本书的“深度”是无可挑剔的,但对于我这种只想在周五晚上轻松阅读,顺便学点实用技巧的普通读者来说,这简直就是一场折磨。我花了整整一个月才啃完,最大的收获可能是——我更清楚地认识到自己对这类“学术派”书籍的耐心程度为零。
评分这本书给我的感觉是,作者可能在某些领域确实有建树,但在如何把这些知识传递给大众方面,简直是灾难性的失败。它的结构松散得令人发指,章节之间的逻辑跳跃性非常大。读起来就像是作者随手翻开了自己几十年来的笔记,然后把所有他认为重要的段落都堆砌在一起,期待读者自己去搭建桥梁。有一段,他正兴致勃勃地讨论如何平衡工作与家庭,下一秒就突然插入了一段关于“中世纪欧洲农业改革对现代企业管理的影响”的分析,我花了足足十分钟才把思绪拉回来,试图重新找到“家庭”的主题。更让我困惑的是,书中充斥着大量的主观臆断,却很少提供可供验证的数据支持。他会斩钉截铁地说“百分之八十的成功人士都遵循X原则”,但当你翻到附录想找他的研究来源时,却发现那里只有一行小小的致谢名单。这种“信我者得永生”的叙事风格,让一个习惯于批判性思维的读者感到非常不适。我需要的不是一个布道者,而是一个可靠的向导,能够清晰地指明道路,而不是用华丽的辞藻把路障粉饰成风景。
评分我曾经寄予厚望,认为这本厚厚的书(是的,它真的非常厚,拿在手上颇有分量)一定能解答我心中关于“如何维持长期关系的热度”的疑问。毕竟,书名听起来就非常聚焦于这个主题。然而,书中的内容似乎更侧重于对“成功人士的生活哲学”进行一种近乎于神化的描绘。它花了大量的篇幅来描述那些假设中的人物是如何规划他们的日程、如何与他们的同级别精英进行社交,以及他们对“更高层次目标”的追求。老实说,我一个普通工薪阶层,下班后只想和家人安安静静吃顿饭,而不是去思考如何“重新定义我的存在价值”。书中对“关系”的探讨,与其说是关于互动和情感连接,不如说是关于“战略联盟的构建与维护”。它把人际关系写成了一场场商业谈判,充满了术语和图表,却完全缺乏对日常生活中那些微妙、琐碎、却又至关重要的情感交流的关注。哪里有关于如何处理一次无谓的争吵?哪里有关于如何记住伴侣随口说过的小愿望?几乎没有。它提供了一张关于“理想国”的蓝图,但那座城里居住的,似乎都是不需要处理水电煤、不需要担心孩子功课的“超人”。
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