BREAKING FREE IS ONLY HALF THE BATTLE. Most teaching on codependency focuses only on how to break free from unhealthy relationships and establish independence and self-esteem. But "the freedom that moves us toward intimacy，" says Nancy Groom， "is not merely freedom from codependency， with its fear and loneliness-it s also freedom to love， without control and manipulation." In this thorough and nontechnical guide to assessment and recovery， Nancy Groom takes you beyond simply escaping codependency. She goes on to help you tackle the tough questions you ll face as you emerge from destructive relationships. If you want to escape a way of life that keeps intimacy， authenticity， and spiritual vitality in bondage and discover how you can bond to God and others with passion and boldness， join Nancy Groom for a powerful journey-from escaping codependency to embracing biblical love. "Personally， this is the most helpful book I ve read in the past several years. Upon finishing it， I immediately began going through it a second time."-Dr. David R. Mains， Chapel of the Air "It s about time we looked at codependency through biblical eyes. Groom discusses the journey from bondage to bonding with such clarity that we feel compelled and encouraged to begin our restoration process immediately. She gives rejuvenating hope to all who choose to be set free. This is a must-read for everyone!"-Marilyn Meberg， M.A.， psychologist in private practice， Newport Beach， California "Few， if any， authors have unfolded such a clear， liberating path to recovery as has Nancy Groom. Moving from a life of isolation and bondage into one of deep intimacy and community is not just a theory in From Bondage to Bonding. It s a reality awaiting everyone who is willing to risk."-Marilyn LeVan Chambon， M.A.， counselor and workshop leader， Colorado Springs， Colorado TABLE OF CONTENTS: Preface: Promises for the Journey PART ONE: WHAT DOES BONDAGE LOOK LIKE? Chapter 1: Codependency-A Self-Focused Way of Life Chapter 2: Self-Forfeiture-Resigned to Helplessness Chapter 3: Self-Contempt-Inclined to Feel Worthless Chapter 4: Self-Aggrandizement-Desperate to Control Chapter 5: Self-Sufficiency-Determined to Stay Safe Chapter 6: Self-Deception-Committed to Denial PART TWO: WHERE DOES BONDAGE COME FROM? Chapter 7: Fervent Longings Chapter 8: Painful Losses Chapter 9: Self-Protective Pretense Chapter 10: Autonomous Independence PART THREE: WHAT IS THE ROUTE TO BONDING? Chapter 11: The Healing of Grief Chapter 12: The Wonder of Grace Chapter 13: The Freedom of Surrender PART FOUR: WHAT DOES BONDING LOOK LIKE? Chapter 14: Reciprocal Grace-Free to Love and Forgive Chapter 15: Courageous Vulnerability-Free to Abandon Denial Chapter 16: Mutual Freedom-Free to Relinquish Control Chapter 17: Spiritual Vitality-Free to Trust and Obey Chapter 18: Sacrificial Love-Free to Risk and Suffer