You Can Start a Revolution in Your Family . . . Tonight
ScreamFree Parenting is not just about lowering your voice. It’s about learning to calm your emotional reactions and learning to focus on your own behavior more than your kids’ behavior . . . for their benefit. Our biggest enemy as parents is not the TV, the Internet, or even drugs. Our biggest enemy is our own emotional reactivity . When we say we “lost it” with our kids, the “it” in that sentence is our own adulthood . And then we wonder why our kids have so little respect for us, why our kids seem to have all the power in the family.
It’s time to do it differently. And you can. You can start to create and enjoy the types of calm, mutually respectful, and loving relationships with your kids that you’ve always craved. You can begin to revolutionize your family, starting tonight.
Parenting is not about kids, it’s about parents.
If you’re not in control, then you cannot be in charge.
What every kid really needs are parents who are able to keep their cool no matter what.
Easier said than done? Not anymore, thanks to ScreamFree Parenting, the principle-based approach that’s inspiring parents everywhere to truly revolutionize their family dynamics. Moving beyond the child-centered, technique-based approaches that ultimately fail, the ScreamFree way compels you to:
focus on yourself
calm yourself down, and
grow yourself up
By staying calm and connected with your kids, you begin to operate less out of your deepest fears and more out of your highest principles, revolutionizing your relationships in the process.
ScreamFree Parenting is not just another parenting book. It’s the first parenting
book that maintains—from beginning to end—that parenting is NOT about kids . . . it’s about parents . As parents pay more attention to controlling their own behavior instead of their kids’ behavior, the result is stronger, more rewarding, and more fulfilling family relationships.
For those of you reading who are parents, know parents, or have had parents, the notion that the greatest thing you can do for your children is to learn to focus on yourself may sound strange, even heretical. It’s not. Here’s why: we are the only ones we can control. We cannot control our kids—we cannot control the behavior of any other human being. And yet, so many “experts” keep giving us more tools (“techniques”) to help us try to do just that. And, of course, the more we try to control, the more out of control our children become.
“Don’t make me come up there.” “Don’t make me pull this car over.” “How many times do I have to tell you?” Even our language suggests that our kids have control over us.
It’s no wonder that we end up screaming. Or shutting down. Or simply giving up. And the charts, refrigerator magnets, family meetings, and other techniques in most typical parenting books just don’t work. They end up making us feel more frustrated and more powerless in this whole parenting thing.
This practical, effective guide for parents of all ages with kids of all ages introduces proven principles for overcoming the anxieties and stresses of parenting and setting new patterns of connection and cooperation. Well-written in an engaging, conversational tone, the book is sensible, straightforward, and based on the experiences of hundreds of actual families. It will help all parents become calming authorities in their homes, bring peace to their families today, and give kids what they need to grow into caring, self-directed adults tomorrow.
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说实话,我拿到这本书的时候,心里是带着十二分的怀疑的。市面上的育儿书汗牛充栋,大多都是同一套说辞:多倾听、多拥抱,听起来都很美好,但真到执行起来,谁家不是鸡飞狗跳?然而,这本书的独特之处在于它直击了问题的核心——父母自身的情绪调节。它没有假装育儿是件轻而易举的事情,反而非常坦诚地承认了在面对熊孩子时的那种本能的挫败感和愤怒。它把“保持冷静”这个看似玄乎的目标,分解成了一系列可以量化的、可操作的步骤。我尤其欣赏它对于“触发点”的分析,它引导我回顾那些让我瞬间失去理智的特定场景和孩子的行为模式,让我明白自己为什么会反应过度。这不仅仅是关于如何控制孩子,更是关于如何重塑我们对“完美父母”的执念。一旦我不再强求自己必须完美无瑕,允许自己在某些时刻感到疲惫和不耐烦,反而更容易在关键时刻站稳阵脚。这本书提供了一种“战略后撤”的智慧,让我们在情绪的洪流来临时,能及时拉开一个安全距离,从而做出更明智、更符合长期教育目标的反应。这对我这个控制欲比较强的家长来说,无疑是一次彻底的思维颠覆。
评分这本书的结构安排得极为巧妙,它不像一本生硬的理论教材,更像是一位经验丰富、语气温和的导师在和你进行一对一的私密对话。我喜欢它那种不带指责的语气,它深知我们作为父母已经承受了太多的社会压力和自我苛责。它没有把我塑造成一个“失败者”,而是把我定位成一个“正在学习中的实践者”。其中关于“暂停键”的练习,简直是立竿见影。过去,我总是被孩子的行为牵着鼻子走,情绪的惯性让我无法自拔。现在,我可以在心中默念几个关键词,强迫自己在那零点几秒的空白中插入一个“选择”——是选择反应,还是选择回应。这个微小的技术,彻底改变了我与孩子互动的质量。我发现,许多看似严重的冲突,其实都源于双方在瞬间情绪上的“碰撞”。当我们其中一方学会了物理性地甚至仅仅是心理上的“退后一步”,冲突的能量场就瓦解了。而且,它强调的“冷静”不是冷漠,而是一种充满力量的、有意识的镇定,这让我感觉自己不是在“压抑”情绪,而是在“转化”情绪。这本书带给我的,是一种深层次的内在平静感。
评分这本书简直是育儿界的“救星”!我过去总是被孩子的小事弄得火冒三丈,感觉自己随时都要爆炸。自从开始尝试书里提到的那些理念,那种持续的、让人窒息的焦虑感真的减轻了太多。它不是那种空洞的说教,而是提供了一套非常实用的、可以立刻应用到日常情境中的工具箱。比如,当孩子在超市里大发脾气,我以前的反应一定是提高音量,试图用更强势的方式压制住他,结果往往是场面失控,我们俩都筋疲力尽。现在,我学会了先处理自己的情绪——深呼吸,然后用一种平静、坚定的语调去引导,而不是去对抗。这种转变不是一蹴而就的,需要大量的练习和自我觉察,但每当成功地将一场潜在的“战争”化解为一次平静的沟通时,那种成就感是无与伦比的。更重要的是,我发现当我不再“尖叫”时,孩子反而更愿意听我说话了。他们不再把注意力集中在我的音量上,而是开始关注我所表达的内容。这种关系模式的转变,让我重新找回了作为家长的尊严和有效性,感觉我们之间的连接更加真实和深入了。我强烈推荐给所有觉得自己在育儿的“战场”上快要弹尽粮绝的父母们,它真的能为你带来一片清凉的绿洲。
评分读完这本书,我的一个最深刻的感受是:育儿的最高境界,或许不是教会孩子如何服从,而是教会他们如何与一个有情绪的、真实的人——也就是父母——有效互动。这本书提供的那种“非反应式”的教养模式,彻底颠覆了我对权威和管教的理解。以前我总觉得,不发火就等于失去了威严,孩子就会为所欲为。但事实证明,当你的声音保持在同一个稳定的频率上,你的要求和界限反而变得更加清晰和难以撼动。我不再需要通过提高音量来“强调”我的话语的重要性,因为我的“存在感”已经建立在一致性和可靠性之上,而非情绪的爆发力之上。它甚至探讨了我们在面对孩子“挑衅性”行为时的内心戏,帮助我们区分哪些是孩子真的在试探底线,哪些仅仅是他们表达无助或需求的一种笨拙方式。这种细致入微的洞察力,让我能更少地把孩子的行为“个人化”,从而减少了不必要的防卫和攻击性。这是一本需要反复阅读的书,因为每次重读,我都能在自己不同的成长阶段,捕捉到新的、更深层次的领悟。
评分这本书的语言风格非常接地气,没有太多晦涩的心理学术语,读起来非常流畅,让人有种“对,我就是这么想的”的强烈共鸣感。它非常注重实际案例的分析,让你能清晰地看到,在那些让人抓狂的日常场景中,如何运用“不尖叫”的原则来化解危机。我特别喜欢其中关于“修复”的章节,它强调了即使我们偶尔“失控”了,也依然有机会通过真诚的道歉和沟通来修复与孩子之间的信任裂痕。这大大减轻了我的“完美主义焦虑”。我不再害怕犯错,因为我知道,只要我愿意主动去弥补,孩子能够理解并原谅。这建立了一种更健康、更具韧性的亲子关系基础。这本书带来的改变是多维度的:我的血压似乎都下降了,家庭氛围明显更加和谐,更重要的是,我对自己作为母亲的身份,有了一种前所未有的掌控感和满足感。它不是魔法,但它提供了一套非常强大且人道的“魔法配方”,让“保持冷静”从一个遥不可及的口号,变成了触手可及的生活方式。我敢说,这是我书架上所有育儿书籍中,投资回报率最高的一本。
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