Quiet

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珊·凯恩,毕业于普林斯顿大学和哈佛法学院。曾经是华尔街律师,现从事谈判、沟通技巧教育。她在内向、羞怯等主题上的文章经常发表于《纽约时报》和《今日心理学在线》。

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高洁,生于山东,于香港城市大学获得传播与新媒体硕士;翻译爱好者,公关业中人。

出版者:Penguin
作者:Susan Cain
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页数:352
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出版时间:2013-1-3
价格:GBP 8.99
装帧:Paperback
isbn号码:9780141029191
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At least one-third of the people we know are introverts. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking, reading to partying; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over brainstorming in teams. Although they are often labeled "quiet," it is to introverts that we owe many of the great contributions to society--from van Gogh’s sunflowers to the invention of the personal computer.

Passionately argued, impressively researched, and filled with indelible stories of real people, Quiet shows how dramatically we undervalue introverts, and how much we lose in doing so. Taking the reader on a journey from Dale Carnegie’s birthplace to Harvard Business School, from a Tony Robbins seminar to an evangelical megachurch, Susan Cain charts the rise of the Extrovert Ideal in the twentieth century and explores its far-reaching effects. She talks to Asian-American students who feel alienated from the brash, backslapping atmosphere of American schools. She questions the dominant values of American business culture, where forced collaboration can stand in the way of innovation, and where the leadership potential of introverts is often overlooked. And she draws on cutting-edge research in psychology and neuroscience to reveal the surprising differences between extroverts and introverts.

Perhaps most inspiring, she introduces us to successful introverts--from a witty, high-octane public speaker who recharges in solitude after his talks, to a record-breaking salesman who quietly taps into the power of questions. Finally, she offers invaluable advice on everything from how to better negotiate differences in introvert-extrovert relationships to how to empower an introverted child to when it makes sense to be a "pretend extrovert."

This extraordinary book has the power to permanently change how we see introverts and, equally important, how introverts see themselves.

Q: Why did you write the book?

A: For the same reason that Betty Friedan published The Feminine Mystique in 1963. Introverts are to extroverts what women were to men at that time--second-class citizens with gigantic amounts of untapped talent. Our schools, workplaces, and religious institutions are designed for extroverts, and many introverts believe that there is something wrong with them and that they should try to “pass” as extroverts. The bias against introversion leads to a colossal waste of talent, energy, and, ultimately, happiness.

Q: What personal significance does the subject have for you?

A: When I was in my twenties, I started practicing corporate law on Wall Street. At first I thought I was taking on an enormous challenge, because in my mind, the successful lawyer was comfortable in the spotlight, whereas I was introverted and occasionally shy. But I soon realized that my nature had a lot of advantages: I was good at building loyal alliances, one-on-one, behind the scenes; I could close my door, concentrate, and get the work done well; and like many introverts, I tended to ask a lot of questions and listen intently to the answers, which is an invaluable tool in negotiation. I started to realize that there’s a lot more going on here than the cultural stereotype of the introvert-as-unfortunate would have you believe. I had to know more, so I spent the past five years researching the powers of introversion.

Q: Was there ever a time when American society valued introverts more highly?

A: In the nation’s earlier years it was easier for introverts to earn respect. America once embodied what the cultural historian Warren Susman called a “Culture of Character,” which valued inner strength, integrity, and the good deeds you performed when no one was looking. You could cut an impressive figure by being quiet, reserved, and dignified. Abraham Lincoln was revered as a man who did not “offend by superiority,” as Emerson put it.

Q: You discuss how we can better embrace introverts in the workplace. Can you explain?

A: Introverts thrive in environments that are not overstimulating—surroundings in which they can think (deeply) before they speak. This has many implications. Here are two to consider: (1) Introverts perform best in quiet, private workspaces—but unfortunately we’re trending in precisely the opposite direction, toward open-plan offices. (2) If you want to get the best of all your employees’ brains, don’t simply throw them into a meeting and assume you’re hearing everyone’s ideas. You’re not; you’re hearing from the most vocally assertive people. Ask people to put their ideas in writing before the meeting, and make sure you give everyone time to speak.

Q: Quiet offers some terrific insights for the parents of introverted children. What environment do introverted kids need in order to thrive, whether it’s at home or at school?

A: The best thing parents and teachers can do for introverted kids is to treasure them for who they are, and encourage their passions. This means: (1) Giving them the space they need. If they need to recharge alone in their room after school instead of plunging into extracurricular activities, that’s okay. (2) Letting them master new skills at their own pace. If they’re not learning to swim in group settings, for example, teach them privately. (3) Not calling them “shy”--they’ll believe the label and experience their nervousness as a fixed trait rather than an emotion they can learn to control.

Q: What are the advantages to being an introvert?

A: There are too many to list in this short space, but here are two seemingly contradictory qualities that benefit introverts: introverts like to be alone--and introverts enjoy being cooperative. Studies suggest that many of the most creative people are introverts, and this is partly because of their capacity for quiet. Introverts are careful, reflective thinkers who can tolerate the solitude that idea-generation requires. On the other hand, implementing good ideas requires cooperation, and introverts are more likely to prefer cooperative environments, while extroverts favor competitive ones.

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”外向的人更倾向从外部世界寻找力量,而内向的人更倾向关注自己的内部世界“。 初看此书,我开始迷茫于自己到底属于外向还是内向。小时的记忆里,我始终是争强好胜并喜欢做焦点中心的人,不仅仅是需要学习很好被认可,而是喜欢自己有才华,尤其是艺术类,或者被大家喜欢,始终...  

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1、给内向者的建议:在周末的时候尽量保持自己安静的本性,在工作日里努力“走出自己的世界,流露出混合的性格,跟你的团队和同事联系,调动起你可以控制的一切能量”。(而如果你是个外向的人,你应该让你的周末回归本我变得疯狂起来,上课的时候专注于学业。) 2、你在某些领...  

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引言 南北性格 关键词:估量自己 做你自己 整理: 对于内向的人来说,估量自己是件困难的事情,但是当他们去做的时候却又是很强大的。 内向性格是自己至关重要的一个组成部分,接纳自我也意味着没有必要排斥这种性格,性格是“我是谁”的重要基础。学会欣然接受这种本...  

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心理学家荣格将人的性格分为内向者和外向者,在他看来,内向者更关注内心世界,而外向者倾向关注人们的外部活动;内向者的注意力往往集中在事物的意义上,而外向者则会投身与事件当中;内向者需要独处来获得放松,而外向者在社会交往中就能吸取能量。图书:内向性格的竞争力 ...  

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这本书有多少科学性呢? 就是将自己的经历分享出来,然后总结。果然积极心理学就如传闻般那么坑爹。 知识点密度说实话低得可怜,像喝白开水一样。 而内向有优势,稍微用脑子就可以想得出来。 只能说,这本书除了给那些精神低落的人稍稍提神,没什么作用。  

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读完更了解自己,也更喜欢自己了。

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很好读的一本书。其中可以应用于国内环境的并不多。但是如果是工作在国外,可以帮助理解西方人的思路,做到既做自己又合群。

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读完更了解自己,也更喜欢自己了。

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在伦敦的最后几周陆陆续续地读完了这本书。比起外向(而聒噪)的美国人来,中国人基本都是内向的,那么读读这本书能帮助你了解并正视自己。当然,书中简单的二元论能帮助作者更好地立论,却不见得是看待世界的最佳角度。

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被最后一章打动,满满的都是爱

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