The Disease To Please 在线电子书 图书标签: 心理学 好人综合症 成长 心理 取悦 人际 英文原版 社交
发表于2024-11-08
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为了得到父母的爱,避免被拒绝或抛弃,孩子只好将自己原本的需求和愿望压低,让它们变得不再重要,转而去努力实现父母那些明确提出的或隐含的期望,甚至内化这些期望,以父母的需求来替代自己的。渐渐地,他们就会成为讨好父母的小孩。
评分很实用的书,写得平易近人,可操作性好,但切不可沉迷在这本书所构造的世界中,这本书只描绘了与人交往的一个发那个面,带着这些经验重新回到社会,丰满地继续生活可能才是作者真正想看到的
评分为了得到父母的爱,避免被拒绝或抛弃,孩子只好将自己原本的需求和愿望压低,让它们变得不再重要,转而去努力实现父母那些明确提出的或隐含的期望,甚至内化这些期望,以父母的需求来替代自己的。渐渐地,他们就会成为讨好父母的小孩。
评分要学会对事不对人
评分为了得到父母的爱,避免被拒绝或抛弃,孩子只好将自己原本的需求和愿望压低,让它们变得不再重要,转而去努力实现父母那些明确提出的或隐含的期望,甚至内化这些期望,以父母的需求来替代自己的。渐渐地,他们就会成为讨好父母的小孩。
哈丽雅特·布莱克
有逾25年的执业临床心理医生和管理顾问经验。她创作了许多畅销的心理自助类书籍,包括纽约《时代》杂志的畅销书《取悦症:不懂拒绝的老好人》和《谁在操纵你》等。
What's wrong with being a "people pleaser?" Plenty! "A fascinating book...If you struggle with where, when, and how to draw the line between your own desires and the demands of others, buy this book!"--Kay Redfield Jamison, bestselling author of An Unquiet Mind and Night Falls Fast People pleasers are not just nice people who go overboard trying to make everyone happy. Those who suffer from the Disease to Please are people who say "Yes" when they really want to say "No." For them, the uncontrollable need for the elusive approval of others is an addiction. Their debilitating fears of anger and confrontation force them to use "niceness" and "people-pleasing" as self-defense camouflage. Featured on NBC's "Today," The Disease to Please explodes the dangerous myth that "people pleasing" is a benign problem. Best-selling author and frequent "Oprah" guest Dr. Harriet Braiker offers clear, positive, practical, and easily do-able steps toward recovery. Begin with a simple but revealing quiz to discover what type of people-pleaser you are. Then learn how making even small changes to any single portion of the Disease to Please Triangle - involving your thoughts, feelings, and behavior - will cause a dramatic, positive and long-lasting change to the overall syndrome. As a recovered peoplepleaser, you will finally see that a balanced way of living that takes others into consideration but puts the emphasis first on pleasing yourself and gaining your own approval is the clearest path to health and happiness.
很多老好人看似是对每个人都很好,其实其在内心是忽略了每个人的. 我们只有先用心对待自己,才可能更有效地帮助他人. 作为一个人,我们很多时候都在服从,在丧失了自我之后,我们已经丢掉了精神的最有效寄托. 我们应该从自己的内心开始, 通过本书的分析来引导自己走出来.
评分《不懂拒绝的老好人》 ★★★★★ (美国)哈丽雅特·布莱克 当你有取悦于人的心态时,你相信讨好能让你免遭他人的拒绝以及其他刻薄的对待。习惯型“好人”被迫牺牲自己的需求而照顾他人的需求。这些自我亏待、导致压力的模式,既损害你的健康和你最亲密的人际关系,同时还会牢牢...
评分 评分一个成年人的认知往往从小时候就被决定,父母则是灌输小孩认知的第一任老师。 小孩子需要取悦别人,这样才能得到好处,比如糖果,零钱什么的,于是这种思想常常会伴随自己一直到成熟到独立。如果工作时还想着如何取悦别人,这就被孩童时代的思想蒙蔽,迫害。 人不为己,天诛...
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