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發表於2025-02-16
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14章給齣的list很有趣。作者以3 stages of gay men的發展曆程敘述;看完後覺得我們並不需要用哪個stage去歸類自己,而是意識到我們時刻都在不同的stage之間遊走,更要保持警醒。願每個人都能獲得authenticity
評分每個gay都應該讀一讀。在直人的世界中懷揣著秘密成長給每個gay帶來的影響是深遠的,我們要花比常人更多的時間和精力去抹去那些印在人格深處的恥辱感,在追求光鮮完美的錶象之下是一個個沒有長大的peter pan。這本書不僅指明瞭成為一個“authentic”的自己需要經曆的階段,更難得的是提供瞭可以實踐的生活技巧。不愧是同誌文化中裏程碑式的一本經典瞭。
評分作者那套shame和validation的理論其實不止是gay men,適用於所有人。身邊就有活生生的例子,做的一切都是要得到validation,不是因為自己喜歡,而是無意義的作秀,得不到validation就氣急敗壞;因為shame而一定要在彆的方麵得到補償;敏感自卑,一點小事就覺得彆人侮辱自己。 反思自己有時候也會把個人全部的價值建築在彆人的validation上
評分斷斷續續看瞭快兩周,我覺得可以稱為Gay Bible瞭,shame is all about how to be a true man。
評分為瞭深刻反思自己要讀gender studies的動機(以及遲遲不改論文的拖延),晚上花兩小時讀瞭前三章,太厲害瞭。通過對shame和rage兩種情感深入淺齣的闡釋,解釋瞭為什麼most gay men are unhappy。。。
Alan Downs, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist in private practice located in Beverly Hills, California. He is the author of seven previous books and continues to write and hold workshops across the United States. He is actively involved in dialectical behavior therapy and is a member of the Beverly Hills DBT Team. Dr. Downs is the former CEO of Michael's House Treatment Center where he currently holds weekend workshops for families of those struggling with addictions. His current book, THE VELVET RAGE, has been acclaimed as "groundbreaking" for the gay male community. Dr. Downs has been a guest on many media programs including, THE OPRAH WINFREY SHOW, TODAY SHOW, and NPR's MORNING EDITION.
This is the groundbreaking examination of the psychology of homosexuality and why it leads to shame over one's identity, and how to overcome it - now expanded and fully updated. Today's gay man enjoys unprecedented, hard-won social acceptance. Despite this victory, however, serious problems still exist. Substance abuse, depression, suicide and sex addiction among gay men are at an all-time high, causing many to ask, "Are we really better off?" Drawing on contemporary research, psychologist Alan Downs' own struggle with shame and anger, and stories from his patients, "The Velvet Rage" passionately describes the stages of a gay man's journey out of shame and offers practical and inspired strategies to stop the cycle of avoidance and self-defeating behaviour. Updated to reflect the effects of the many recent social, cultural and political changes, "The Velvet Rage" is an empowering book that has already changed the public discourse on gay culture and helped shape the identity of an entire generation of gay men.
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