UNCONDITIONAL PARENTING Moving from Rewards and Pu 在线电子书 图书标签: 育儿 Parenting 英文原版 教育 心理学 教育理念 Education 家庭
发表于2024-10-03
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One of the best parenting books I've ever read. Answered most of my questions regarding discipline. I have changed my old practices and need to revise my previous writings.
评分车轱辘话翻来倒去的说,真的很佩服老外。不过这个概念我非常接受
评分车轱辘话翻来倒去的说,真的很佩服老外。不过这个概念我非常接受
评分车轱辘话翻来倒去的说,真的很佩服老外。不过这个概念我非常接受
评分车轱辘话翻来倒去的说,真的很佩服老外。不过这个概念我非常接受
Alfie Kohn is the author of nine previous books, including Punished by Rewards and The Schools Our Children Deserve, that have helped to shape the thinking of parents and educators across the country and abroad. He lectures widely and lives (actually) with his family in the Boston are and (virtually) at www.alfiekohn.org.
Most parenting guides begin with the question "How can we get kids to do what they're told?" and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, "What do kids need - and how can we meet those needs?" What follows from that quetion are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them.
One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including "time-outs"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send.
More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from "doing to" to "working with" parenting - including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents.
《无条件养育》的作者认为应当慎用表扬,就如同慎用批评一样,孩子不应该因为做某事而被爱,应该因为他们是孩子而被爱。行为主义的方法如同驯狗,将食物、玩具、表扬(或者说成人的喜爱)作为奖励和惩罚的手段,使年幼的孩子时时生活担心自己会受表扬还是批评的巨大压力...
评分 评分做了2年多爸爸以后,我越来越质疑自己对孩子的教育理念,正是起于感觉到自己频繁使用“胡萝卜+大棒” 。举个例子,每天早上孩子刷牙洗脸是件很折磨的事情,明明3分钟就可以完成的,总要托个半小时。时间来得及时还好,早上如果要上课或者出去,就很容易起冲突。 我之前的解决方...
评分很多时候我们在和孩子相处过程中依靠的是一种惯性,依靠着是自己身上从父辈身上承袭下的经验;却很少静下来反思一下这些方式都是对的吗?特别很多时候我们在生活的轨道上疲于应付,孩子往往成了导致情绪崩溃的最后一根稻草。我们会咆哮,会愤怒,会后悔,会懊恼,但下次周而复...
评分想要把孩子养育的好,绝非易事,本书也确实没有给出任何具体的办法。就像作者说的一样,养育孩子没有死的教条的办法,每个小孩都是独立的,个性的。 读前半本书的时候,我一直在问一个问题,如果不能惩罚,不能表扬,那我怎么办,碰到孩子不听话,哭闹,耍脾气的时候,不能这样...
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