UNCONDITIONAL PARENTING Moving from Rewards and Pu 在線電子書 圖書標籤: 育兒 Parenting 英文原版 教育 心理學 教育理念 Education 傢庭
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車軲轆話翻來倒去的說,真的很佩服老外。不過這個概念我非常接受
評分車軲轆話翻來倒去的說,真的很佩服老外。不過這個概念我非常接受
評分車軲轆話翻來倒去的說,真的很佩服老外。不過這個概念我非常接受
評分車軲轆話翻來倒去的說,真的很佩服老外。不過這個概念我非常接受
評分車軲轆話翻來倒去的說,真的很佩服老外。不過這個概念我非常接受
Alfie Kohn is the author of nine previous books, including Punished by Rewards and The Schools Our Children Deserve, that have helped to shape the thinking of parents and educators across the country and abroad. He lectures widely and lives (actually) with his family in the Boston are and (virtually) at www.alfiekohn.org.
Most parenting guides begin with the question "How can we get kids to do what they're told?" and then proceed to offer various techniques for controlling them. In this truly groundbreaking book, nationally respected educator Alfie Kohn begins instead by asking, "What do kids need - and how can we meet those needs?" What follows from that quetion are ideas for working with children rather than doing things to them.
One basic need all children have, Kohn argues, is to be loved unconditionally, to know that they will be accepted even if they screw up or fall short. Yet conventional approaches to parenting such as punishments (including "time-outs"), rewards (including positive reinforcement), and other forms of control teach children that they are loved only when they please us or impress us. Kohn cites a body of powerful, and largely unknown, research detailing the damage caused by leading children to believe they must earn our approval. That's precisely the message children derive from common discipline techniques, even though it's not the message most parents intend to send.
More than just another book about discipline, though, Unconditional Parenting addresses the ways parents think about, feel about, and act with their children. It invites them to question their most basic assumptions about raising kids while offering a wealth of practical strategies for shifting from "doing to" to "working with" parenting - including how to replace praise with the unconditional support that children need to grow into healthy, caring, responsible people. This is an eye-opening, paradigm-shattering book that will reconnect readers to their own best instincts and inspire them to become better parents.
没有任何一种教育方式适合所有的孩子, 在看了大量的育儿书籍后,那些教育上的技巧在刚开始被建立,后来又逐渐被推翻,比如在《超级育儿师》系列节目被频繁用到的"time out"(爱的暂停)方法曾经红极一时,后来又出现大量的理论和实例去推翻这种做法。 因为有这种经历的孩子为...
評分这本书写的观点一下子让人是有些接受不了,但是如果再把自己想像成一个孩子,就是明白确实就是这么回事。父母总是说爱孩子,所做的一切都是为了孩子。但是孩子的真实感受是什么?他需要的是什么? 如果我们爱孩子,为什么孩子感觉到的却是痛苦,难堪,自己的无用,不存在感。难...
評分这本书写的观点一下子让人是有些接受不了,但是如果再把自己想像成一个孩子,就是明白确实就是这么回事。父母总是说爱孩子,所做的一切都是为了孩子。但是孩子的真实感受是什么?他需要的是什么? 如果我们爱孩子,为什么孩子感觉到的却是痛苦,难堪,自己的无用,不存在感。难...
評分几年前读过一次科恩的《无条件养育》,当时看得一知半解,留下了好些疑问。这几年不断的学习育儿知识,也在和一些好学的妈妈们的交流讨论中成长了不少,我自己也在各种不同的渠道里和大家分享过自己在育儿道路上的一些小小心得体会。于是,最近又把《无条件养育》这本书翻出来...
評分开篇是不错的,说了很多别的书籍没有说的东西,而且又是那么的正对我意。一直以来我都觉得子女对父母的爱来的更加无私,不管我的爸爸妈妈做了什么,我都会爱他们,因为他们是我的爸爸妈妈。甚至在我看电视看到坏人的时候,我都会假想一下,如果这个十恶不赦的人是我爸爸或者妈...
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