The State of Affairs 在線電子書 圖書標籤: 婚姻 英文原版 心理 心理學 Relationship 兩性 sexuality relationship
發表於2025-03-13
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existential affair的說法有意思,關係性質彼此明確的話,affair源於個人的existential crisis. 修補關係的溝通:分析需求而非執迷細節,investigative instead of detective approach.
評分Thought provoking indeed. 跟她的前作Mating in Captivity比起來,這本書是基於前作並更加專攻infidelity。Esther Perel在這一方麵真的是我的偶像瞭,每次看她的書聽她的podcast都學到好多。她給的觀點都相當客觀,都有現實案例來支撐。Infidelity可以讓情侶們學到很多,但她並不建議大傢走這條路去吸取教訓;polyamory不是毫無規矩的縱欲,他們也有自己遵循的一套法則;很多時候infidelity是基於溝通失敗,權力關係失衡等等的緣由;有的關係可以在經曆外遇後存活,有的則不能,所以根本沒有一個完美的解決方案。最重要的還是明白戀愛關係中並沒有“占有權”,一切都是“租賃關係”,可以重新“續單”很好,不能重新“續單”要反思。
評分為啥我的第一反應竟然是比利時姐姐英語文筆不錯哈……
評分Therapy talk-based, 所以顯得有些散亂,但概念不錯
評分在Amazon Audible上買瞭有聲版,期待希拉裏一般的完美發音時卻發現是作者Esther Perel(比利時人)本人朗讀,濃厚的法語口音聽著十分酸爽,但語言之精妙真是驚艷。確實,這本作者作為therapist講述案例的書若不是本人朗讀確實夠彆扭的。剛聽一章,Understanding it doesn't mean justifying it.
Esther Perel is a couples and family therapist with a private practice in New York City. She is on the faculty of the International Trauma Studies program at Columbia University, is a member of the American Family Therapy Academy, and has appeared on many television programs, including The Oprah Winfrey Show, Good Day New York, CBS This Morning, and HBO's Women Aloud. She lives in New York City with her husband and two children.
Iconic couples’ therapist and bestselling author of Mating in Captivity Esther Perel returns with a provocative look at relationships through the lens of infidelity.
Affairs, she argues, have a lot to teach us about the human heart—what we expect, what we think we want, and what we feel entitled to. They offer a unique window into our personal and cultural attitudes about love, lust, and commitment. Through examining illicit love from multiple angles, Perel invites readers into an honest, enlightened, and entertaining exploration of modern marriage in its many variations.
An affair: it can rob a couple of their relationship, their happiness, their very identity. And yet, this extremely common human experience is so poorly understood. Adultery has existed since marriage was invented, and so too the prohibition against it—in fact, it has a tenacity that marriage can only envy. So what are we to make of this time-honored taboo—universally forbidden yet universally practiced? Why do people cheat—even those in happy marriages? Why does an affair hurt so much? When we say infidelity, what exactly do we mean? Do our romantic expectations of marriage set us up for betrayal? Is there such a thing as an affair-proof marriage? Is it possible to love more than one person at once? Can an affair ever help a marriage? Perel weaves real-life case stories with incisive psychological and cultural analysis in this fast-paced and compelling book.
For the past ten years, Perel has traveled the globe and worked with hundreds of couples who have grappled with infidelity. Betrayal hurts, she writes, but it can be healed. An affair can even be the doorway to a new marriage—with the same person. With the right approach, couples can grow and learn from these tumultuous experiences, together or apart.
Fiercely intelligent, The State of Affairs provides a daring framework for understanding the intricacies of love and desire. As Perel observes, “Love is messy; infidelity more so. But it is also a window, like no other, into the crevices of the human heart.”
过去 20 年中,全球两性及婚姻关系大师埃丝特·佩瑞尔(Esther Perel),将大量精力投入对外遇问题的调查研究中。她走访了几千对有外遇问题的夫妻,希望搞明白:究竟如何定义出轨行为?人们出轨的动机究竟有哪些?出轨问题能教给我们什么? 她将答案写入这本《外遇问题》,本...
評分过去 20 年中,全球两性及婚姻关系大师埃丝特·佩瑞尔(Esther Perel),将大量精力投入对外遇问题的调查研究中。她走访了几千对有外遇问题的夫妻,希望搞明白:究竟如何定义出轨行为?人们出轨的动机究竟有哪些?出轨问题能教给我们什么? 她将答案写入这本《外遇问题》,本...
評分在一开始碰到这本书的时候,我以为会是聚集了各类让人瞠目结舌的出轨例子的知音体和心灵鸡汤,心里不免带着一丝犹豫踌躇。而实际上,这本书完全是“另辟蹊径”地去谈出轨。作者Esther Perel是从事婚姻咨询三十多年的心理治疗师,接手了上万个婚姻出轨的案例。这本书的观察角度...
評分在一开始碰到这本书的时候,我以为会是聚集了各类让人瞠目结舌的出轨例子的知音体和心灵鸡汤,心里不免带着一丝犹豫踌躇。而实际上,这本书完全是“另辟蹊径”地去谈出轨。作者Esther Perel是从事婚姻咨询三十多年的心理治疗师,接手了上万个婚姻出轨的案例。这本书的观察角度...
評分在一开始碰到这本书的时候,我以为会是聚集了各类让人瞠目结舌的出轨例子的知音体和心灵鸡汤,心里不免带着一丝犹豫踌躇。而实际上,这本书完全是“另辟蹊径”地去谈出轨。作者Esther Perel是从事婚姻咨询三十多年的心理治疗师,接手了上万个婚姻出轨的案例。这本书的观察角度...
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