Boundaries 在线电子书 图书标签: 心理学 relationship 成长 关系 Christian 自我管理 spiritual 英文原版
发表于2024-12-22
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非常赞的一本书,干货满满,花了差不多两个月才读完,并且尝试去做,感觉经历了一次奇妙的转变!几年前第一次读这本书的中文版,当时我的界限完全是混乱的,所以拿起来读的时候心中有种莫名其妙的怒气,一下子就把这本书丢掉了。但是经过我一年多在界限上的调整和突破,这些意味不明的经验经过这本书层层递进,清晰,丰富却简洁照亮,使我在智识上更加明白那些非常容易被混淆,让我们陷入困惑和伤害的真理。读完后心中充满了感激之情!也真实为自己能够坚持把这么厚一本书坚持不懈地读完感到骄傲!
评分作者用了大量的例子和圣经的引用来解释边界,如何建立边界。很实用,但是,还是老话,要完全做到需要不断的实践。
评分宗教放一边,这本书真是对不敢说no的老好人太有帮助了!
评分作者深受弗洛伊德学说影响,同样的观点在全书重复多次,不过内容仍很有启发。
评分Reading it again.
Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend are popular speakers, psychologists, cohosts of the nationally broadcast New Life Live! radio program, and cofounders of Cloud-Townsend Clinic and Cloud-Townsend Resources. Both graduated with doctorates in clinical psychology from Rosemead Graduate School of Psychology at Biola University, and both maintain practices in Newport Beach, California. They are best-selling coauthors of several books, including How People Grow, Boundaries in Dating, Boundaries with Kids, The Mom Factor, Safe People, and Twelve "Christian" Beliefs Than Can Drive You Crazy. Dr. Cloud is the author of Change That Heal and Dr. Townsend is the author of Hiding from Love.
Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define who we are and who we are not. Boundaries impact all areas of our lives: Physical boundaries help us determine who may touch us and under what circumstances -- Mental boundaries give us the freedom to have our own thoughts and opinions -- Emotional boundaries help us to deal with our own emotions and disengage from the harmful, manipulative emotions of others -- Spiritual boundaries help us to distinguish God's will from our own and give us renewed awe for our Creator -- Often, Christians focus so much on being loving and unselfish that they forget their own limits and limitations. When confronted with their lack of boundaries, they ask:
- Can I set limits and still be a loving person?
- What are legitimate boundaries?
- What if someone is upset or hurt by my boundaries?
- How do I answer someone who wants my time, love, energy, or money?
- Aren't boundaries selfish?
- Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries?
Dr. Henry Cloud and Dr. John Townsend offer biblically-based answers to these and other tough questions, showing us how to set healthy boundaries with our parents, spouses, children, friends, co-workers, and even ourselves.
看完过犹不及了,不管作者怎么说,用什么例子或什么定义,我认为,全书在说的,就是“责任”二字,所谓界线,大约就是分清哪些是自己的责任,哪些是别人的责任,承担起自己的责任,就是爱自己,也是爱别人。因而,过份的自卑与过份的自恋都不是爱自己,因为这些都是可以产生后...
评分我感觉界限疗法也属于一种叙事疗法。 “同理心”要求理解来访者,他的行为是有道理的,然后告诉他, 合理的未必是公理,公理也未必是真理。 这有点麻烦,何为真理?谁能回答? 世界观如此多元化,真理提得越来越少,合理成了目的。 这本书基于圣经原则,给了一把尺子,衡量何为...
评分 评分 评分其实我可以说不,其实我可以不用负责别人的渴望 这本书让我对亲密关系有了顿悟,让我知道“说不并不等于不爱”,如果对方无法接受你的界限或者你的“不”,那迫使他们接受。否则,大家相互远离。而远离并不代表我是没有价值的,我是被抛弃的,这是对方无法接受独立的我而已,...
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