Our earliest experiences shape our lives far down the road, and What Happened to You? provides powerful scientific and emotional insights into the behavioral patterns so many of us struggle to understand.
“Through this lens we can build a renewed sense of personal self-worth and ultimately recalibrate our responses to circumstances, situations, and relationships. It is, in other words, the key to reshaping our very lives.”―Oprah Winfrey
This book is going to change the way you see your life.
Have you ever wondered "Why did I do that?" or "Why can't I just control my behavior?" Others may judge our reactions and think, "What's wrong with that person?" When questioning our emotions, it's easy to place the blame on ourselves; holding ourselves and those around us to an impossible standard. It's time we started asking a different question.
Through deeply personal conversations, Oprah Winfrey and renowned brain and trauma expert Dr. Bruce Perry offer a groundbreaking and profound shift from asking “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you?”
Here, Winfrey shares stories from her own past, understanding through experience the vulnerability that comes from facing trauma and adversity at a young age. In conversation throughout the book, she and Dr. Perry focus on understanding people, behavior, and ourselves. It’s a subtle but profound shift in our approach to trauma, and it’s one that allows us to understand our pasts in order to clear a path to our future―opening the door to resilience and healing in a proven, powerful way.
Through the power of media, Oprah Winfrey has created an unparalleled connection with people around the world. As host and supervising producer of the top-rated, award-winning The Oprah Winfrey Show, she entertained, enlightened, and uplifted millions of viewers for twenty-five years. Her accomplishments as a global media leader and philanthropist have established her as one of the most respected and admired public figures today.
Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D., a child psychiatrist and neuroscientist, is the principal of the Neurosequential Network, senior fellow of the ChildTrauma Academy and an adjunct professor of psychiatry at the Northwestern University School of Medicine in Chicago. He is the author, with Maia Szalavitz, of The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog, a bestselling book based on his work with maltreated children, and Born for Love, about the essential nature of empathy.
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评分 评分 评分 评分出现以下全部四种症状,则认为患有创伤后应激障碍: 1、侵入性:不愿意想起的内容总是以梦境或者记忆在脑海中反复出现 2、回避性:重新接触可唤起记忆的事物产生痛苦的感受。回避是尝试获取可控制的感觉,面对威胁时的解离反应,比如幼儿被虐待,后期对无法发展亲密关系 3、认...
这本书的结构设计堪称精妙,它像是一个精心编排的交响乐,不同主题的乐章交织融合,共同构建出一个宏大而又私人的情感景观。我特别佩服作者的用词选择,那种精准而富有画面感的描述,让人在脑海中构建出清晰的场景,仿佛亲身经历了书中人物的挣扎与蜕变。它探讨的主题宏大却不空泛,比如创伤的代际传递,以及我们如何从历史的阴影中汲取力量,走向自由。文字的密度很高,初读时需要放慢脚步,细细咀嚼每一个词句背后的深意,但回报是丰厚的——每一次回味都会带来新的领悟。它不是一本“读完就忘”的书,更像是放在床头,时常翻阅,每次翻开都能找到新的对应点。对于那些习惯于快速阅读的人来说,这本书可能需要一些耐心,但这份投入绝对是值得的。
评分这本书的叙事风格充满了音乐的韵律感,句子长短不一,富有呼吸感,读起来非常流畅自然,即使探讨的是沉重的话题,也不会让人感到气闷。我尤其欣赏作者在保持客观分析的同时,所流露出的强大同理心。他没有把世界简单地划分为对与错、好与坏,而是深刻理解了人类行为的复杂性和多重驱动力。阅读过程中,我常常需要停下来,合上书本,去整理自己脑海中被激发的联想和回忆。这不仅仅是一本书,它更像是一面镜子,映照出我们每个人在成长过程中,那些未曾解决的小小裂痕。它成功地将复杂的心理学概念,转化成了普通人都能理解和共鸣的生命故事。
评分这本书简直是一剂心灵的清泉,让我沉浸其中,久久不能自拔。作者以一种极其真诚且富有洞察力的方式,剖析了人类情感错综复杂的迷宫。我尤其欣赏它叙事节奏的把握,那种娓娓道来却又暗流涌动的笔触,仿佛作者正坐在我对面,用最私密的声音与我分享他的人生感悟。书中对于“接纳”与“和解”的探讨,没有落入俗套的说教,而是通过一系列细腻入微的生活片段,展示了放下执念的艰难与必要性。读完之后,我发现自己看待过去和对待自己时,多了一份温柔和理解。它不提供快速的解决方案,而是鼓励读者进行深层次的自我对话,这种陪伴式的阅读体验,远比任何一本教你“如何做”的书籍来得更有力量。那些关于原生家庭影响的章节,触动了我内心深处最敏感的部分,那种被理解的感觉,如同久旱逢甘霖。
评分如果用一个词来形容阅读这本书的感受,我会选择“震撼”。不是那种廉价的、耸人听闻的震撼,而是一种根植于深刻人性洞察力的、让人不得不停下来反思的冲击。作者似乎拥有某种透视人心的能力,能够精准地捕捉到那些我们通常会忽略或压抑的情绪波动。书中的案例和论述紧密结合,逻辑清晰,但情感充沛,丝毫没有学术著作的冷硬感。特别是关于“脆弱性即力量”的论述,彻底颠覆了我以往的认知框架。它鼓励了一种更诚实、更完整地面对自我的生活态度。我感觉这本书更像是一位智慧长者的倾心教导,他没有批判,只有引导,引领我们去探索那些藏在行为模式背后的真正动机。
评分这本书的价值,在于它提供了一个安全空间,让我们得以审视那些被社会规范或自我保护机制层层包裹起来的真实自我。它没有急于给出“解药”,而是专注于“诊断”过程的细致描摹,这恰恰是最宝贵的部分。作者的文笔是那种内敛而有力量的,如同深海,表面平静,实则蕴含着巨大的能量。我发现自己对许多旧有的信念系统开始产生动摇和质疑,这是一种积极的、成长的痛感。这本书的深度使得它拥有了极高的重读价值,每一次重读,我都能从那些看似不经意的细节中,捕捉到作者更深一层的用意。它教会我,理解他人的起点,永远是深刻地理解自己。
评分绝不原谅施虐者
评分audible听完,作为HSP觉得很有启发(并且再次意识到了relationships的重要性…
评分非常科学系统的分析了trauma以及影响,不像一般的self-help书只给可以简单复制的小帖士。最后一段直接给我听哭了。
评分创伤或者糟糕的成长环境会在生理和心理上对一个人产生影响,改变我们的压力反应机制。许多在成年后出现的问题,源头在于早前发生过什么。而治愈创伤的首要,是了解过去。
评分what happened to you is what is happening to you
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